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Recently I had my first sexual experience with a black man. I'm a self-professed size queen and was disappointed to find this guy's cock was average at best. I told one of my girlfriends about this experience and she basically chastised me about being ignorant and buying into cultural stereotypes. I told her it's a known fact that black men have bigger penises than white men. Can you please settle this difference of opinion?
Full disclosure; the guys at Ask The Men are white. We needed to really do our homework here before answering your question. Although none of us wields an African-American member, we're not totally without experience. We've all participated in high school and college athletics programs. We've all seen our share of penises in the shower room context. One of us lived with an African-American family for six months and shared a bedroom with twin brothers. All that being duly noted, we're talking fleeting, flaccid glances at best. Those of us that partake in pornography are jaded as well. For the most part, men who make a living having sex on camera are above average in penis size.
If you were so inclined to do your research on the internet before you sent us your question, you undoubtedly found piles of misinformation, personal bias and the reinforcement of those cultural stereotypes your friend referred to. By the way, she happens to be right. Don't blame yourself. The myth that men from certain cultures have larger or smaller penises than men from other cultures runs deep and continues to gain credence via perpetual generational hand-off today. When we were teenagers and noticed our black friends or roommates didn't seem to have any larger packages than we did, we drew this logical conclusion. These were "below average" black guys. Looking back now, we see how idiotic that conclusion was but it illustrates our point. Even as kids and teens, we were under the impression that black men had bigger cocks. You shouldn't feel bad about your expectations but you should get educated so as not to make an ass out of yourself the next time a friend goes myth-busters on you.
During our research, we spoke to several black men who all confirmed the fact that they constantly ran into the "expectation scenario" when sleeping with white women. Yes, only with white women. Black women, having slept with many more black men, know that the hung-like-a-horse myth is just that. They've seen small black cock, medium black cock and so on. You may find that when you ask a black woman about this myth, assuming you're a white woman, you get a "Hell yes! Our men have huge cocks!" in reply. Bare in mind this is akin to asking an Italian if they make better spaghetti sauce than a Frenchman. An affirmative answer may or may not be accurate but spaghetti sauce is a source of cultural pride and will be defended as such, with pride, arrogance and exaggeration.
So where did this stereotype begin? Experts in the field say it dates at least to the 15th century. White explorers measured a few well-endowed African tribesmen and made an all encompassing conclusion that later lent ammunition to pro-slavery abolition fighters who wanted white Americans to believe that African men were sexual savages who, if granted their freedom, would rape and pillage the pure white women with their insatiable sexual urges and huge phalluses. This fairy tale not only convinced the white America of that time period but still manages to permeate the national consciousness today.
The bottom line; There are many urban myths purporting correlations between various races and penis size. However, to date, there has been no conclusive evidence that race and penis size are at all correlated. All studies to this effect have been rejected by the scientific community due to inaccuracy, respondent bias, or unverifiable claims. The average erection, regardless of cultural points of origin is five to six inches. There are African American exceptions... and Caucasian exceptions and Asian exceptions and so on.
As a side note, there have been many studies conducted regarding penis size. There are two primary study types; "Measured by staff" studies in which erections will be measured by the researches or their representatives, and "self measurement" surveys in which individuals will report measurements of their own erections. The results? When measured by research staff, the average length of erection was about 5.5 inches. When men measured their own erections and reported the results, about 6.2 inches. We can only conclude that outside of these clinical study results, anything else you may have read on the internet regarding this subject is pure urban legend. For a little more insight into the ongoing penis size discussion go to Wikipedia or read on below where we've republished an excerpt from Ask The Men, July 2006.
Does penis size matter to the man?
What planet did you say you were from? Frequency of thought about penis size probably ranks somewhere between pizza, beer, football and sex. We would have to assume that events in any man's life will have some impact on how much of his time is spent lamenting his shortcomings or thanking his parents for his ample good fortune.
Taking the average results from any number of studies on penis size, you'll inevitably obtain these "typical" erect penis results: The average penis length is 5.1 inches. The average girth is 4.9 inches. The average width is 1.5 inches. So why all the hoopla? When I was 9 years old I inadvertently found my mom's 10 inch rubber dildo in a very unexpected place (the fabric softener box, don't ask). I was traumatized! I actually thought that since someone had gone to all the trouble to make a rubber facsimile of a penis, they must have made it true-to-life. I took one look at that massive member and another look at my somewhat average looking manhood and panicked! I panicked for about ten years. Then one day I had a revelation. I'd always had pretty good sex and no complaints. Now I only think about penis size a couple of times a day.
It may be a high school locker room. It may be a prom date who asks "is it in yet?" or a woman who stops you at half-penetration because you're just too much for her. Maybe it was your first porn featuring John Holmes or the conversation you overheard in homeroom where Carol and Mary were laughing about mini-weenie, the Hicksville High Quarterback.
Just like breast size and the pressure women feel, society places a huge burden on the psyche of those men who consider themselves under endowed (whatever that means). Most men when asked would like a larger penis (just look at the success of penis enlargement pills). The surgeon who actually invents a way to enlarge a man's penis successfully will acquire more wealth than the rich bastards responsible for breast implants.
Penis size has traditionally symbolized virility from the earliest accounts of recorded history. Couple this with the indisputable fact that there are quite a few "size queens" out there who prefer a very large penis and you've got the ingredients for mass hysteria in regard to penis power.
I guess the bottom line is yes, penis size does matter to men and not necessarily because it matters to women. Some women prefer a large penis because they find them aesthetically pleasing and some enjoy the fullness they experience from a more massive member. So what's the deal with men? In this testosterone fueled world of big SUV's, big houses, big screen TV's and big bank accounts, the big penis is just another bragging right. It's a "look at me" appliance. It's another big stick at the playground. Hey, this is really sounding ridiculous…isn't it?
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